feat: track updating selections with row IDs

[zamderax]

• add row IDs to TableData for stable selection tracking in updating tables
• add automatic selection tracking that prefers row IDs and falls back to the first column
• update the selectable updating example/docs and add tests for reordering and duplicate names

[zamderax]

I updated the mise task headers from to to silence the deprecation warning in newer mise versions. Happy to revert if you’d rather keep the old header.